# Explicit Bayes as a counter for 'worrying'

One of the possible human uses of explicit Bayesian reasoning is that making up explicit probabilities and doing the Bayesian calculation lets us summarize the relevant considerations in one place. This can counter a mental loop of ‘worrying’ by bouncing back and forth between focusing on individual considerations.

One example comes from a woman who was a test subject for an early version of the Bayes intro at the same time she was dating on OKCupid, and a 96% OKCupid match canceled their first date for coffee without explanation. After bouncing back and forth mentally between ‘maybe there was a good reason he canceled’ versus ‘that doesn’t seem like a good sign’, she decided to try Bayes. She estimated that a man like this one had prior odds of 2 : 5 for desirability vs. undesirability, based on his OKCupid profile and her past experience with 96% matches. She then estimated a 1 : 3 likelihood ratio for desirable vs. undesirable men flaking on the first date. This worked out to 2 : 15 posterior odds for the man being undesirable, which she decided was unfavorable enough to not pursue him further.

The point of this mental exercise wasn’t that the numbers she made up were exact. Rather, by laying out all the key factors in one place, she stopped her mind from bouncing back and forth between

Worrying isn’t always unproductive. Paying more attention to an individual consideration like “Maybe there were reasons a good dating prospect might’ve canceled anyway?” might cause you to adjust your estimate of this consideration, thereby changing your posterior odds. But you can get the *illusion* of progress by switching your attention from one already-known consideration to another, since it feels like these considerations are pulling on your posterior intuition each time you focus on them. It feels like your beliefs are changing and cognitive work is being performed, but actually you’re just going in circles. This is the ‘unproductive worrying’ process that you can interrupt by doing an explicitly Bayesian calculation that summarizes what you already know into a single answer.

(She did send him a rejection notice spelling out her numerical reasoning; since, if he wrote back in a way indicating that he actually understood that, he might’ve been worth a second chance.)

(He didn’t.)

Parents:

- Humans doing Bayes
The human use of Bayesian reasoning in everyday life